Trans and Gender Diverse Parents Guide

Rainbow Families is excited to launch the Trans and Gender Diverse Parents Guide. 

This guide details the personal stories of trans and gender diverse (TGD) parents, their partners and children. Each story is unique – reflecting a very individual journey – but collectively, these stories provide insights into shared, common experiences.

These stories provide practical advice and answers. They also offer the opportunity for identification and a strength that comes from knowing that someone else has walked this sometimes difficult path before. No one need ever feel alone in their journey, or that of a loved one, to be their most genuine selves.

The guide explores a number of questions:

  • How do you explain gender affirmation or transition to your child? How do you reassure them they are not losing a ‘mother’ or a ‘father’ but gaining a happier, more authentic parent? How can you best support them through the transition process?

  • What’s the best approach to take with school? How do other parents react and how do you manage their reaction? How can supportive teachers or principals help?

  • What impact does transition have on a partner or co-parent? How might it affect the family dynamics? What support is available for partners and children?

  • What’s it like to negotiate fertility clinics and IVF as a TGD person? How does pregnancy affect a trans man? How do you balance dysphoria and breastfeeding?

A careful reading of these stories provides answers to many of these questions.

We hope that the resource will be of value to health and human service providers who work with TGD parents. We know there are currently very few supportive and informed health practitioners who can work effectively with TGD people and their families. Any practitioner reading these stories will gain a detailed insight into the lived experiences of their clients or patients and some guidance about how they might best support them.

All the parents in this guide have faced enormous challenges and celebrations, and developed incredible resilience; many of their strategies and approaches are outlined in this guide. Ultimately, these stories explore how TGD parents balance their own needs with those of their children and other important people in their lives.

These are stories of lived experience that have not, until now, been readily available to other people who might benefit from reading them. Indeed, all the parents in the guide have highlighted the importance and value of connecting with other TGD parents, either in person or online. To this end, the guide includes a list of support organisations and groups as well as links to other useful information. We know that reading about and connecting with other people in similar circumstances can break down isolation, provide a pathway forward, and give hope.

Our aim is to provide other TGD parents and their partners with that connection, that pathway, that hope.


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