We left Australia so we could get married

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We left Australia so we could get married

We are two mums with two little boys. My partner, Las,  and I left Australia almost 10 years ago for a number of reasons, one of which was that we wanted to marry each other. 

Las and I had a civil partnership in 2007 in the UK. It was the year's most glorious warm Indian summer day in Cornwall and it was the most glorious day for us as a couple. Our celebrant was amazing and our wedding was witnessed and celebrated by many of our close family and friends, most of whom had travelled from overseas to be with us on our special day. We were also happy that we had at least some form of legal recognition of our love for each other. 

Las and I upgraded our civil partnership to marriage in the UK as soon as we could. We felt lucky that we lived in a country where we had access to equality laws but we also felt it was our right as life partners and parents and a family unit to be fully recognised as such by society and by law. 

We made a choice together to return to Australia, the country we both love and where we met, to raise our two gorgeous boys - Finnbar and Cormac. With one of us being Australian and the other from Ireland, it was hard to choose which country to come home to. Personally I was proud to see my home country, Ireland, vote overwhelmingly for marriage equality this time last year. 

We are both shocked and saddened that Australia does not have marriage equality. We feel it is totally unjust that, while our overseas marriage is recognised under NSW law, our gay and lesbian friends and who live here, and many who have always lived here,  do not have access to this basic human right.  

We are also saddened by the fact that we need to again register our same sex marriage in the NSW relationship register in order for it to be recognised. Registering a civil partnership/ marriage/ relationship  three times for what has been a marriage for us from Day 1 is unfair and seems a total waste of time. 

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Proud Gayby Nico

This month Nico from Glebe shares his story of being raised by his mums, Jane and Sarah.  Growing up in Petersham, the Blue Mountains and Sheffield, he reflects on his experiences as a Gayby, the true meaning of brotherhood with his younger brother Ralph, and how he dealt with the fact that not everyone was accepting of him having two mums.  

If your family would like to share your story please email us.

 

 

 

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Proud new dads!

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Proud new dads!

Scott, Grant, Harper.

Scott, Grant, Harper.

Some days it seems quite surreal and implausible that Grant and I have the massive responsibility of looking after this 12 week old little angel. But then it’s also hard to remember what it was like when Harper wasn’t here.

It was mid-2014 when our close friend Sascha surprised us with the amazing offer of helping us to become parents.  After some serious soul searching, we accepted the offer and so began this crazy ride!

The journey has not been without its challenges, in part due to the fact that Altruistic Surrogacy is not very common in Australia, so information and support systems are not what they could be.  But ultimately we are blessed to have have this wonderful gift who brings us joy everyday.  

We hope we’ll be good parents. We have amazing support from family and friends. Harper will grow up surrounded by so much love, including 5 sets of grandparents, lots of aunties, uncles and cousins. And of course a very special relationship with Sascha and Harper’s brother, Micah.

Grant and I were married in Byron Bay in 2011. We recently returned there for our first family holiday with Harper.  I think it’s going to be a very special place for all of us.

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Our journey to becoming parents!

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Our journey to becoming parents!

Andriana, Justine and Jaida

Andriana, Justine and Jaida

My partner and I have been together since October 2000. We had our commitment ceremony in 2008 in the preparation of trying to start a family. In 2009 we decided to go down the path of seeking fertility. We looked into ways that we could have a baby. Lucky for us, we had friends who had a child and we could ask questions of them and how they did it. We decided to use an anonymous donor and this meant we had to go through a fertility clinic.

Using an anonymous donor meant that we would have autonomy on our child’s upbringing and we did not have factor in a known donor, their parents and family into anything. We also felt, that for us, this was the best pathway; our child would have 2 parents only. We do know that our child can get in contact with the sperm donor clinic to contact the donor if she wants to, once she is 18 years of age. Our donor was from overseas.

It took us awhile to fall pregnant, but in March 2011 our beautiful, clever, witty and amazing baby girl was born. We have been so happy and fulfilled since that moment! We hope to add more to our family one day. 

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